AKA We Said “YES!” To Our First Foster Child
Ever heard the saying “if you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans”? That pretty much sums up the process leading up to our first foster kid placement.
What I thought placement would be like
Here’s what I thought would happen, based on classes, books, videos and conversations with other foster parents:
- It would be 11 pm on a Tuesday
- The phone would ring
- The placement officer would tell us about a 6 month old who needed a home
- An infant would be dropped off at 1 am
- I would spend the next day calling every provider on the daycare list that I created and going to Target for a million baby things
- The following day would be spent in court trying to determine what was going on with the case
- I would call ELC every hour to see if they received the paperwork so I could take the baby to daycare and avoid missing yet another day of work
- At some point I would get overwhelmed and burst into tears probably due to lack of sleep and most likely due to an incident not related to foster care at all, which would leave the receiving party utterly confused
What foster kid placement was actually like
- I got a text on Wednesday afternoon that some local Tallahassee foster parents had a personal issue come up and they wouldn’t be able to foster for the long term
- They wanted to make the process as smooth as possible to transition their almost 4 year old foster son to a new home
- We set up a play date
- They came to our home so we could all meet face-to-face
- I had a week to get daycare and other paperwork sorted out
- Any time I had a question, I was able to text the current foster mom and she answered immediately
- 3 people who work in the foster care system all reached out to check on me, ask if I had any questions, explain what next steps would be etc. etc. etc.
I mean, HOW IS THIS POSSIBLE?! I’m sure complications will ensue. For now I’m just thanking my lucky stars on a relatively smooth first placement process.
Can you ever really plan ahead as a foster parent?
All the pre-planning and preparations I made leading up to this point did nothing except to ease my rising fear of the unknown. If you’re making preparations, you really don’t have time to overthink and start panicking.
So I guess it wasn’t completely in vain.
In our pre-licensing class, every time someone would raise their hand and ask a question, the first response from the instructor would be “It depends. Every situation is unique.” which drove us all crazy. But it ended up being true.
This foster kid placement was different from the norm and not what we prepared for at all but…
On Friday we will officially be foster parents to a 4-year old boy.